Updated: Dec 13, 2020
With this year coming to a close, I have decided to clean house in many ways. I have started to get my health back in order....listen quarantine and cookies don't mix OK! But I have also started to search my relationships and get those in order as needed. Many of my close relationships are solid. Solid meaning, I know they are committed to my well being and they love me unconditionally. Despite differences or tough times, they are in it for the long haul and so am I. Other relationships aren't necessarily bad, but they are questionable. Questionable meaning, I'm not sure where I stand with this person. I'm not sure how this person really feels about me. Maybe something happened and we don't talk as much as we used to. Maybe something happened and we still talk, but haven't ever address the elephant is in the virtual room. Whatever the case is, I have been in thought and prayer about these things and I want to encourage you to do the same. Why? These are things that can hinder you at your next level.
Yes, you have to do your own personal work on you but beyond that, RELATIONSHIPS MATTER. You must do the work in both areas. You could be good, but a bad relationship could change that in no time. For me, I know my next level, whatever that looks like, is coming soon. Therefore, I am working on enriching the relationships that need to stay, accepting the fact that some won't, staying open to new ones, and doing my part on the ones that need work. The fact that some of them needed work, started to weigh on my trust a little. I'll be the first to admit that I have trust issues but man...it's hard to have meaningful relationships when "don't trust them" is constantly playing in your mind. Maybe I feel that way because of me or them, but I feel that way nonetheless. Then God led me to search the scriptures.
Scriptures about trusting man
Psalms 118:8 - [It is] better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.
Isaiah 2:22 Don’t put your trust in mere humans. They are as frail as breath. What good are they?
Psalm 60:11 Oh, (God) please help us against our enemies, for all human help is useless.
Proverbs 3:5-6 - Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
And let's be clear. I am man. Man is me. I'm not exempt from the failure and fragility that lies in my humanity. But God's word doesn't stop there. It discourages us from putting our trust in man, but it DOES encourage us to love them. Many people say, I can't love you if I don't trust you. Well, that's not what the bible tells us to do. It tells us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. As you move forward in your healing, in your path to cultivate the relationships right for you and right for the season you are in, don't leave love out of the equation even if you have to do some subtraction.
Losing, in a spiritual sense, always leads to or indicates gain. God wastes nothing and He will never let the last thing you had, be the best thing you had. Your latter shall be greater! Don't let past experiences hinder you from moving forward. You will recover if you continue to let love flow through your heart. So, love them regardless and put your trust in God. He will never leave you or forsake you. He will give you the discernment needed to have good, solid relationships. He will give you the discernment you need to trust the God in them. Business relationships, family relationships, romantic relationships, all of them! Do the work needed to be free in your next level, friend. It's right around the corner.
Until next time, be big, be balanced, be blessed.